Talking about condoms

Talking about condoms

Knowing all about condoms is one thing – using them can be a whole different story. Lots of people worry about talking about condoms with their partner but the chances are they're worrying about it too! Talking about condoms and contraception way before you get down to having sex can save you a lot of embarrassment and hassle further down the line – and put you both at ease when you do get down to it!

People make lots of excuses for not using condoms but usually they're just embarrassed. If your partner has a reason for not using a condom, make sure you have a reason that they should and that you can talk about the benefits of condoms before you have sex. Here are some tips for talking about condoms:

You don't trust me... It's not that I don't trust you - I just want to make sure we're both protected from pregnancy and STIs and we'll enjoy sex more knowing we are.
We haven't before so why start now? Because we've been taking stupid risks until now. If we start using them now we won't be at risk of pregnancy and we should both get checked out for STIs.
But I'm on the pill... The pill protects against pregnancy but not STIs. If we use both we'll be even safer and we can share the responsibility of contraception.
I can't put them on... I can do it for you and we can practice together and make it part of the fun.
They don't fit me properly... Condoms come in loads of shapes and sizes, and we can have fun finding one that you do like.
It doesn't feel as good with a condom It will feel better for me being able to relax knowing we're safe from pregnancy and STIs and loads of condoms can enhance pleasure for both of us.
It's embarrassing to go and get them... It's embarrassing at first but we'll soon get used to it... and it's far less embarrassing than a trip to the STI Clinic.
They interrupt sex though If we practice together we can both get really good at it and then it won't be a big deal.
We only have oral sex anyway so why bother... Because we both know that there are STIs that can be caught from oral sex and it will be good practise for when we are ready to have sex.
We're both virgins so we won't need to... But there are STIs that can be picked up from oral sex and using condoms will protect us against STIs and give extra protection against pregnancy.
I'm allergic to latex... We can get latex free condoms!